Romantic time alone

Power out. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

This is a dreadful time to romanticize my life but yep, I did. So everyone is gone so it’s just me and the cats. I’m not apologizing for sleeping most of the day. The power went out at around 4 pm. I reported a power transformer explosion incident (which sounded like it) to Meralco and after 4 hours, power was restored despite the inclement weather. Kudos to the linesmen of Meralco for doing repairs round-the-clock.

Cats sleeping on my dried laundry. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

I didn’t bother cooking. I just cooked rice in the rice cooker and had cold cuts. Slept and cuddled with the cats.

And of course social media is so toxic today. The whole of Mindanao is flooded. Children have died in Maguindanao and Cotabato. Farmlands and homes are flattened. Then people—opposition and admin–have the gall to quarrel online.

I had to express my disbelief and anger at the callousness of people:

There are members of the pink movement who are toxic. They said they will not help because Cotabato is red, Mindanao is red. You know, this kind of attitude and noise alienate the people who we must convince that they made a wrong choice.

Yes, we are tired of the stupidity of the electorate but this is not the time for hubris. Help but then we demand accountability from those who are in power. That’s how we turn the tide.

A revolution is not an overnight thing. It is a long and slow build up.

Don’t be myopic.

And I keep sharing this call for donations because Community Pantry PH still couldn’t raise enough money for relief. I also donated whatever meager resources I have right now. Tomorrow I will check Angat Buhay HQ or Ateneo if they need volunteers or what other resources they need. I need buy a cavan of rice and boxes of ready-to-eat food.

https://twitter.com/raffymagno/status/1586398360436502530

We all know that the government is incompetent so we do what we can. We need to educate the electorate and wean them away from social media that is propagating lies and disinformation that allowed the Marcoses to be in power. And here the asshat himself is asking why the Mindanao tragedy happened. Damn you, cretin! What parallel universe are you living in?

To answer this from a more educated standpoint, I shared with a veteran journo why PAGASA’s storm warnings were not heeded by people on the ground:

My sister’s PhD dissertation on climate change mentions the localization, not only of the language, but also of the concepts introduced/reported by disaster mitigation agencies so it’s not PAGASA’s burden alone. It needs close coordination of MDRRMC, PDRRMC and National DRRMC. PHIVOLCS under Punongbayan and Solidum explained it in a paper very well (I think I have posted it here on FB) that’s how they were able to save lives during Pinatubo eruption. Disaster mitigation agencies should have good comms people so important information are dispatched immediately to local government units. I learned when I was communicating with some of these agencies, they don’t have budget for proper comms or even training. Communication in such agencies are just afterthought. Last time I had talked to them, they were arranging a training under UPLB CDC. Not sure if this pushed through. The science may be right but cascading it down to the grassroots is a whole different story. Before Yolanda (Typhoon Haiyan), how do we even explain and localize the concept of “storm surge”? “It is like a tsunami,” is the default answer. But how do you localize tsunami and the idea of it? How do you localize 500 mm of rainfall? Mass media plays a major role in this one. But mass communication is not enough to move people, it is the local targeted comm that moves them.

I didn’t mention that I was the one arranging the communication training of PAGASA with my undergrad college and I was already talking to the dean of the graduate school (who happened to be my sister in my Greek-letter organization) of my undergrad campus about the needs assessment and the curriculum for the training. It all started two years ago with a Twitter discussion on science communication (my undergrad specialization) and disaster mitigation communications and/or the failure/lack of it. Then somebody from PAGASA reached out to me on Twitter asking for help regarding this one. One thing led to another. This couldbe a working dissertation for me if I were to pursue my PhD. My Greek-letter sis and another friend who used to be the chairperson of my grad school in UPD and I were discussing about writing a proposal about this, which could be extended for my PhD—if I I suddenly go crazy and think of going back to school.

I’m big on communication campaigns and grassroots communication and how it can mobilize science into something practicable.

10 hours after, my cats are still like this. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

All in all, I became stressed with all these Twitter exchanges with toxic people.

So what do you do on Friday nights?

Photo by CallMeCreation.com

Well, I’m trying to save my own ass by attending a safety workshop for Filipino journalists because they’re killing us literally.

It’s supposed to be 5 days of safety training (physical, digital, and mental) but since we’re all working, we will have this staggered. There are so many important things to discuss, we couldn’t fit it into a one-night session. We arrived at a consensus that when one journo gets a death threat, we should all make noise and amplify it, write stories about it—for our own safety. Because we’re brushing off threats, one journo was just picked up at the airport in Mindanao by the police and got detained for the wrong reasons. 🤦‍♀️ Many violations were committed with her arrest and she wasn’t even given a chance to have a lawyer. 😤 Then Percy Lapid was killed and this government has turned it into a shitshow.

This is exactly the reason why we should all be on our toes.

I’ve met some former students there at the workshop and I’m glad that they’re very active in journalists’ causes. One of them wanted me to go back to teaching because only a few practitioners are mentoring new blood. I said I had to give up teaching because checking papers was a nightmare.

This morning I drove the girls to the airport.

We waited for their aunt to come out of immigration so we stayed at the parking area of Terminal 1 before picking her up at the arrival bay. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

Then we rushed to T2 because their flight to Cebu was moved two hours earlier. But then because of the typhoon, their flight got pushed back later than their original departure time 😑

After I dropped them off, I went to MC Home Depot at BGC, which was a futile exercise. My contractor was not happy with the water pressure pump and pressure tank there so I proceeded to Wilcon Depot along C5.

They say this is good enough pressure and tank size for a 2nd storey bathroom and kitchen sink.
I think this is too much. They said this is good enough pressure for a 3-4 storey house. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

Still, my contractor said he needs to check the specs. So I moved on to buying a range hood.

I bought this Rinnai range hood because its fan is metal, unlike the others which use plastic fans. Photo by CallMeCreation.com
Plus it’s low maintenance. I only need to degrease the stainless steel filter. Others need carbon filters or papers. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

Even though it’s single motor, the thing is huge and the suction was strong. The air pushed out of the vent was equally powerful. There’s also a cup at next to the fan that will trap oil and grease. I only needed to wash it every now and then.

I paid 9k for this one even when the 4-5k ones are already decent. But this Rinnai is low-maintenance so I gladly forked out 5-4k more. I don’t want a plastic fan dying on me soon.

I also checked out Rinnai ranges as well.

I also stopped by Tiendesitas today for cat supplies. I bought my kitties a new toy that they’re enjoying now.

Photo by CallMeCreation.com
Photo by CallMeCreation.com

When I got home, my neighbor gave me some of the deliveries that they received on my behalf since no one was home. Some friends sent me boxes of charcuterie for my birthday. 🥰

Photo by CallMeCreation.com

Yum. Breakfast tomorrow 🤣

Colds

I’m not going anywhere. My daughters passed on to me their colds. 😕 So after we fetch their aunt from Terminal 1 and drive them all to Terminal 2 for their flight to Cebu, I think I will be going straight home.

I was initially thinking of going to MC Home Depot to buy a range hood for my kitchen. My contractor has been sending me photos of tiles for my bathroom and kitchen backsplash. We’re still waiting for the granite countertops that will match the tiles.

But I’m not feeling energetic at all. I just want to sleep.

Bathroom wall tile.
Bathroom floor tile
Or this for bathroom floor. This one is better because this is rough, less slipping on wet floor.
This kitchen sink
Or this
This is a bigger door than I am used to for the front foor. 250x100cm.

Maybe I’ll do it on Saturday?

Meanwhile, the contractor said the drywall will be thicker (fiber cement will be 6mm instead of 4.5mm) to ensure soundproofing. This will also help me when I begin hammering picture frame hooks for my paintings and whatnot.

Finally settled with contractor. This is the entry way to the girls’ room. I have wide enough space for a two-door closet.
We also talked about installing wall brackets here for shelves

Speaking of…

Gonna give this to my bro since he’s the current dean.
My grad school. I will have trouble finishing this because of the stone inlay above the college seal. I have to draw each stone inlay 😑

Catwalk

I’m planning to install catwalks and cat stairs in my tiny home and this IG reel is perfect.

Meanwhile, I have a lot of time on my hands…

Art and photo by CallMeCreation.com
Art and photo by CallMeCreation.com

Art and photo by CallMeCreation.com

Twin A is right. I should just keep the pencil sketch and not use black liners.

Meanwhile, I have something to put in my soon-to-be built bathroom 🤣

Art and photo by CallMeCreation.com

Because bathrooms like these are more interesting:

The red blinking light of death

It has been like that for almost 24 hrs. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

What’s annoying is that I just had lunch with the CEO of this company last Thursday 🤦‍♀️. I had been tagging their Twitter account today and had been pestering them about this outage in my area. I don’t want to use my connections yet so I’m going through the normal channels to have this fixed.

To occupy me today, I bought new Holbein colors for my urban sketching kit from Artwhale. I would’ve wanted to buy more but I forgot to bring my palette. I don’t want duplication. Plus it’s expensive.

Each half-pan costs 220-240 pesos. Photo by CallMeCreation.com
Lovely. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

I also bought a no. 7 roundtip brush for washes. 500+ pesos.

When I get back to Japan, I will buy a huge Holbein half-pan kit.

Sombrero Island. Still not done. Art and photo by CallMeCreation.com

I still need to fix this but I’m letting it dry first before adding another layer.

Tomorrow: No agenda.

I’ll just draw. ❤️

Day 3 of vacation leave

I was just supposed to do my grocery shopping today but I ended up spending 4 hrs with a friend who asked for counsel about her career.

Early dinner of cold soba before walking in UP. Photo by CallMeCreation.com

I was the one who helped her transition from media to another industry (via my connections and gave her good backing). I was also instrumental in her pursuit of a master’s degree from Australia via a scholarship (also gave her topics for her dissertation because it was within my area of expertise). Due medical issues, she must now leave the agency she has worked for but she still has to complete her contract service. Complicated, but long story short, I was able to help her clear her head and suggested to her the appropriate steps to take so the ends are tied neatly.

Basically, stress almost killed her. She suffered from high levels of anxiety (that job is really stressful) that led to stroke. She had to go through physical therapy, speech therapy, etc. so she can regain her old self. And as a former broadcast journalist, losing your ability to speak is devastating.

It was the same kind of stress and anxiety attacks that my other friend, M, is experiencing. His BP is shooting through the roof, too alarming that he had to be brought to the ER. It is happening regularly that he needed to take a 4-month medical leave.

I told this friend, T, that we as journalists have this bad habit of ignoring our bodies when they’re breaking down because we are used to just pushing forward—because that’s what we are supposed to do. Now she realizes that mental health is not trivial.

We had discussed so many things while driving, while walking around UP campus—16k steps in all—and it feels good to untangle cobwebs while exercising.

She was so thankful I took time to see her. I said, if there’s one thing that this Covid pandemic taught me, it is that I should make time for people who are important to me. I told her that there’s a reason why I had to go through so many bullshit and earn cuts and bruises—maybe because my role in this universe is to counsel friends. To share my experiences like struggles with mental health caused by bad breakups, trauma, work, etc. Experience in managing people and in having bad bosses and ok mentors. And overall experience in the industry. As a true empath, I absorb all these and then I make sure my friends and loved ones don’t fall into the same ditch.

I said whether it’s work or relationships, we must take care of ourselves. Because T and I are both empaths, we tend to lose ourselves in the service of others. In relationships, we roll the red carpet and over-extend ourselves, while in the process, we slowly but painfully kill ourselves.

We need to set our boundaries so we don’t melt and disappear like candles because we tend to give and give even though we don’t get any in return.

A glass of bubbly tonight to end this day. Video by CallMeCreation.com

Boundaries are physical manifestations of self-love. We empaths need to preserve ourselves so we do not just melt, evaporate, and disappear because we gave too much.