My new friend/co-worker (who I had hung out with last November here in SG) flew here on Tue from HK to attend our events. She was very troubled; she was lifeless when we were doing our respective networking rounds.

She was about to cry when she told me her story about this Polish guy living in the same building as her, who was manipulating her. Basically, he just wants a fuck buddy as he didn’t want commitment. He just goes to her apartment (never his), he doesn’t want to be seen with her or hold her hands when they go out to eat (which was seldom), and he brings her to shady places (literally shady so he can’t be seen with her) and figuratively. She told me she feels like garbage when she’s with him. He makes himself scarce then he would suddenly send messages and say I miss you, let’s meet…it’s like he’s doing this so she would want him more.

I listened and assured her she’s not garbage and she doesn’t deserve this guy. I told her, “he’s just using you, your body, and seems like he has this Chinese girl fetish.”

“And he makes you feel bad that you had to go to Singapore for work, saying you’re just here to f*ck other men. He’s an asshole. Girl, you need to block him on your phone. You need to quit this guy.”

I know it’s hard to let go, I told her, but you already have self-awareness that he treats you like shit. You need to cut him out cold turkey or else you will be dragged down into his vortex of games that he’s playing with you.

Guys are assholes 🤬. I’m beginning to think that there are no good men left on this planet. We’re just human appliances to them, very utilitarian. Or just warm sexual playthings.

We had to cut our conversation since I needed to go back to the office for the training I had to conduct. She was asking me if I can go to the cocktail party that our company is co-hosting with one of our global clients. I said it depends on my energy level.

Unfortunately, I was already drained as hell at past 6 pm. I had to tie up some loose ends since some of my team mates are flying back to their respective homes tomorrow. The energy left in me was just enough for me to go to Maxwell to eat dinner and go to my hotel. I was already dragging my body as I was dead inside.

Cases of covid are rising again with this new variant circulating now. A lot of people are coughing and sneezing in the trains. 😵 Geez, I can’t go home with Covid so I went back to masking.